I wanted to respond to Rilye Kline’s recent letter in the July 1 issue of Mountain Democrat. Thank you for speaking from your heart and wanting change. You sound like a compassionate person.
You mentioned that you are not the one who can stop it but I want to assure you there are things we can say or do in response to bullying to help break the cycle. We often think that “somebody” ought to do something about bullying. Ask yourself — if not me, who? If not now, when? We are all “somebody” and we can all choose to do something, anything, to make a difference. Bullying is a complex problem and may never disappear, but we can certainly learn to respond in peace-promoting ways to help the problem get smaller instead of perpetuating the cycle.
We can’t control things that happen and we can’t control things that others choose to say and do. However, we can control the thoughts we have about it and we can control our response to it. That power is our choice. We can learn to practice nonviolence one caring and courageous choice at a time, one day at a time, to help peace and happiness multiply. This is how we each, in our own way, move our homes, our classrooms, our communities in a direction of peace.
People who bully need help too. Often when people are hurt or insecure, they feel that bullying will make them feel better. You also mentioned reporting to an adult which is great advice. I would add, if an adult does not respond effectively, then be sure to keep asking until you find an adult that will do something to ensure someone’s safety, whether it is emotional or physical safety. Thank you for your courage in speaking out.
Caring and Courages Kids
El Dorado Hills