Wednesday, April 23, 2014

Anniversary: Eileen and Lou Samboceti know the secret to a happy marriage


LOU AND EILEEN Samboceti, ages 86 and 84 sit together in their home in Placerville on Oct 21. The Samboceti's were married May 16, 1948 and are celebrating 65 years of marriage. Democrat photo by Shelly Thorene

From page B5 | November 01, 2013 | 3 Comments

On the morning Eileen and Lou Samboceti got ready for the Mountain Democrat’s visit to take their photograph marking the couple’s 65th wedding anniversary, each got dressed separately — then emerged with both wearing light-colored slacks and navy blue shirts.

“That’s what happens after 65 years, everything just seems to come together,” said Lou, 86, laughing at his wife’s reaction to both of them choosing the same outfit.

The charming couple not only celebrated 65 years of matrimony, in May, they also looked forward to Halloween on Thursday, Oct. 31.

They met one another at a Halloween party in 1946, when each was on a blind date with two other people.

“I didn’t like the guy I was with and he didn’t like his date either,” said Eileen, 84. “I was only 16 at the time and was going to an all-girls school, but I had seen Lou playing at sporting events over the years, so I knew who he was.”

“You were so lucky to get me, Eileen,” said Lou, eyes sparkling at his wife’s fresh reaction to his sense of humor.

It’s that sense of humor and apparent all-around symbiosis that provides the cement for a relationship that has seen the joys of the birth of children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren, along with life’s trials and tribulations.

All the while Eileen and Lou have maintained a closeness and friendship that has carried them through the thousands of days together, both agree.

The secret to a sound, happy marriage is simple, according to Lou: “I always let her win the arguments — I haven’t won one in 65 years,” he said.

“Yes, you have,” Eileen jumped in, as her husband winked over her head.

The second most important thing in keeping a marriage happy is to learn to say, “Yes, dear,” according to Lou.

“But he only says that on things he wants to get away with,” Eileen added.

On a serious note, both agreed that “compromise” is the catchword for any successful union.

“We never went to marriage counseling, because they didn’t have that in our day but I think it’s a good idea for any couple that needs it,” said Eileen.

The Sambocetis, who live in Placerville not far from the city park on Benham Street, walked downtown on Halloween to watch the youngsters in their costumes in a popular parade that draws thousands of local residents.

Their joy in such simple pleasures has helped account for the marriage’s longevity, according to Eileen, who said their 65th anniversary celebration last spring wasn’t full of ostentation.

“For our wedding anniversary, one of our daughters, Kathy, placed a congratulatory banner on the wall and sent flowers, then we went out for dinner,” she said. “We’re just happy to wake up every morning and see what the day brings.”

What the day brings for Eileen is a brisk 2-mile walk through Placerville, where her friendly face is welcomed by locals. Her husband at least three times a week enjoys a round of golf with buddies and is proud of the hole-in-one he shot at age 77.

The couple once played tennis together on a regular basis and Lou described Eileen as “the best tennis partner I could have had.”

The Sambocetis dealt with some tough times when Lou was in his early 40s and asthma set in. With her husband in and out of the hospital at least 15 times, Eileen said she took to heart the part of her vow that states, “in sickness and in health.”

Nowadays, both enjoy a healthy life that includes exercise and proper diet, with a generous dose of affection for one another.

“I razz Lou a little bit but that’s just to make sure he’s still kicking,” said Eileen.

Eileen and Lou Samboceti were married May 16, 1948, at the Immaculate Conception Church in Sacramento. What might have seemed inauspicious at the time, their wedding car was involved in a wreck on the way to the reception and the newlyweds had to borrow another vehicle for their honeymoon trip along the California coast. Time has proved that the bumpy start was not a sign of things to come.
Before moving to El Dorado County, the Sambocetis lived five years in neighboring Amador County, in the town of Sutter Creek.

In Placerville, the couple owned and operated Hangtown Hardware on Broadway from 1962 to 1985. Lou was one of the founders of the Hangtown Chamber of Commerce and was a member of the Placerville Rotary Club and Broadway Merchants Association.

After retiring from the hardware business with her husband, Eileen volunteered and was employed by Snowline Hospice for 24 years, where she still dedicates many hours to volunteer work.

The Sambocetis have three children, Mitchell Samboceti of Placerville, Kathy Samboceti Withrow of Placerville and Lorna Samboceti Wren, who lives in Corning. They also enjoy seven grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.


Discussion | 3 comments

  • MorrisOctober 30, 2013 - 8:02 pm

    A beautiful love story; sweet. Congratulations Mr. and Mrs. Samboceti on your anniversary.

    Reply | Report abusive comment
  • J.F. MeyerNovember 01, 2013 - 4:13 pm

    I’ve known Lou and Eileen since the 1970s and can attest first-hand to their remarkable qualities as brought out in Pat Lakey’s wonderful article. Eileen’s smart, disciplined approach to life and health have always awed and inspired me. Lou is funny and upbeat and generous to a fault. Both of them are warm human beings and outstanding role models--as their long, happy marriage attests. My love and best wishes to them both for many more happy years to come! ~Jenny Forsberg Meyer

    Reply | Report abusive comment
  • Linda CorteseNovember 03, 2013 - 1:30 pm

    Congratulations Lou and Eileen! What a lovely article for two wonderful people. Wishing you many more, Linda Gilmour Cortese, Sedona Az

    Reply | Report abusive comment


Herard over the back fence: Try fishing at Wakamatsu

By Bob Billingsley | From Page: B1

Downtown group coordinates painting, awnings

By Wendy Schultz | From Page: A1

More mountain lion sightings reported

By Dawn Hodson | From Page: A1, 8 Comments

Supervisor Nutting trial begins

By Cole Mayer | From Page: A1, 100 Comments | Gallery

Sanford murder case to jury

By Cole Mayer | From Page: A1 | Gallery

Gearing tax questions to correct office saves time

By Treasurer-Tax Collector | From Page: A3



Building restored

By Mountain Democrat | From Page: A4

Outstanding dog

By Mountain Democrat | From Page: A4

My turn: More than a buzzword

By Special to the Democrat | From Page: A4, 63 Comments




By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A5, 11 Comments

Altshuler framing

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A5, 9 Comments

National Day of Prayer

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A5, 5 Comments

‘Parents, be afraid’ letter

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A5, 38 Comments

Ukranian situation

By Letters to the Editor | From Page: A5, 5 Comments



Outside with Charlie: Transitioning

By Charlie Ferris | From Page: A6

Pitching the ‘Root’ cause of Trojans’ victory

By Mike Bush | From Page: A6 | Gallery

Pedal power at the forefront next month

By Jerry Heinzer | From Page: A6 | Gallery

Sports Scene: April 22, 2014

By Democrat Staff | From Page: A7

Roundup: April 22, 2014

By Democrat Staff | From Page: A7 | Gallery



4-H’ers star at showcase

By Dawn Hodson | From Page: B1 | Gallery

Authors to share their stories

By Pat Lakey | From Page: B2, 2 Comments

At a glance: Look for fireballs

By Mimi Escabar | From Page: B2, 1 Comment

Church to host human trafficking conference

By Pollock Pines | From Page: B3

Grow For It! Flower of Easter

By Barbara Schuchart | From Page: B5



Weather stats 4-22-14

By Michael Raffety | From Page: A2

Building permits 4/7-11/2014

By Michael Raffety | From Page: A2, 1 Comment

Crime Log: April 1-3

By Cole Mayer | From Page: A2



Bobby Lloyd Bridges

By Contributor | From Page: A2

Harry Frank Harper

By Contributor | From Page: A2, 6 Comments

Marion “Wayne” Griswold

By Contributor | From Page: A2


Real Estate



Working It Out

By Contributor | From Page: A8

TV Listings

By Contributor | From Page: A8


By Contributor | From Page: A8


By Contributor | From Page: A8


By Contributor | From Page: A8

New York Times Crossword

By Contributor | From Page: A8

Flying McCoys

By Contributor | From Page: A8

Speed Bump

By Contributor | From Page: A8


By Contributor | From Page: A8

Horoscope, Thursday, April 24, 2014

By Contributor | From Page: A8

Horoscope, Wednesday, April 23, 2014

By Contributor | From Page: A8